By now, probably everyone in Malaysia knows about the Sufiah Story. The maths prodigy turned sultry star. Yes, our little Malaysian star has grown up. And what’s more, many names for her now circulate. The ‘Happy Hooker’, she is to some, and to others, just plain old ‘prostitute’.
The issue has kinda blown over now, hasn’t it? Headlines have a way of becoming obsolete. But before this one expired, many people commented that the Govt should no longer spend Malaysian taxpayers’ money on this girl, whether to help her or whatever. They felt that it was unfair for Malaysians to pay for someone who wasn’t even Malaysian anymore, and to make things worse, on someone like her.
My concern is not so much of the money. My concern is for her. Somehow, we’ve forgotten to be people. We’ve left our souls somewhere distant, haven’t we? Cuz now she’s ‘chosen her way of life’ so we adopt the there’s-nothing-we-can-do attitude. Yeah, she says she’s happy being an escort, but so what? Wrong is wrong. Yes, it’s her choice, but that doesn’t mean let’s all forget about her and leave her to rot for all we care.
What if one of our children turns out that way? What if our daughters become prostitutes and sons gigolos? How do we know many of them aren’t already? Sure we’re quick to condemn but it never really affects us till it hits home, does it? Reading about a family burning to death in the newspaper is so distant. We just shrug and say “Too bad,” and move on to the gossip page. And when one of our own family members burn to death, its then we feel the searing heat, we remember his/her last moments. Yeah, that’s a pretty gross analogy but it applies.
So anyway, why did she turn out that way? What conditioned her to actually enjoy the life of an escort/hooker/prostitute? I don’t know. Perhaps a myriad of different factors. Who could know what kind of home she came from that affected her as a child. Who knows? Maybe she went through a period of emptiness in her teenage life and found that sex is a quick fix, just like alcohol or dope. It could have been a million other factors, but whatever they are, we need to understand that it couldn’t be good. No, she was never meant to turn out like this, and neither are any of us or our children.
What could possibly cause her or anyone for that matter to view our bodies so cheaply that its ok to sell it? It doesn’t matter whether its for a Gucci bag or even a million or billion dollars for that matter? Is that what we’re worth? Sure, its pleasurable, but when did we sink so low? Our dear Sufiah may just wake up someday in the future, and realize how empty her life was. Why empty, you ask me. She had lots of pleasure, and expensive gifts, and probably money too.
It’s a simple answer. All those things are material. And we are more than just material. Materialism never fulfills. We can chase after all the material things in the world, and we can get them, but in the end..so what? So what? So what if I’ve got the new C-Class? So what if I’ve gotten 10 Harvard degrees and a job paying a million a week? So what if I’ve got a house bigger than 5 White Houses and 5 Air Force Ones? So what if I get to fly my own personal helicopter every weekend? So what?
Cuz someday, I’ll lie on my deathbed (assuming I have the privilege to) and inevitably I’ll look back at my life. And everything I’ve done will pass before my mind’s eye. The question is, will I be proud? Or will I be ashamed? Will I wonder why I even lived? Will I feel the pangs of shame and taste the tears of regret? Will I wish I had another 10 years to live how I should have lived?
Maybe I’ll smile. Perhaps I’ll thank God for showing me the way to live. And maybe I’ll be at peace, ready to die and be with God forevermore. It all depends on our choices, doesn’t it?
Sufiah’s made hers. But I will say this; let there be no condemnation. She made mistakes, and so do we. What we should do is not turn our backs on her and let her throw her life away. We need to rally behind her and say “No matter what you’ve done, we’ll always be here.” Can we do that?
Well this blogger has taken a stand to support Sufiah. There is a chance she will come back to the right path. And I will be waiting for that day, along with all who agree with me.
You know what’s more? This doesn’t just go out to Sufiah. This goes out to every young one out there who’s ever made a wrong decision or taken a wrong turn. Come back.
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6 comments:
Nice post. Maybe it's not for us to say what's right and what's wrong for her. Maybe we are too quick to use our own moral and logical judgment to decide what's the best for her.
I've learned you can't force your 'good values' on someone else. It just doesn't work. Wars are fought because of this.
You can only hope to offer your point of view and hope they make good use of whatever they understand of it.
I agree with you that we should be there for her, as a compassionate person, not just because she's Malaysian.
So, in the end, we do nothing, sit in a corner and wait for her to return to the right path right? No difference from plainly ignore the issue, my 2cents hehe...
1 more thing, what if she found true love in the many clients that she had? it may not be a permanent love, she might not be a wife or a legitimate girlfriend, but isn't that love all the same?
err just let it be, don't judge, don't question, that's the way the world is right now...
Thanks for the comment bobbyt. Well I never said do nothing and sit in a corner lol. To me, something that I feel strongly about is to never be guilty of silence. At the end of the day, it is her choice, but I don't believe we should just keep quiet.
We should make our stand, but not force it on others. I'm not judging her in any way. Its true I believe what she is doing is wrong, but no I do not judge or condemn her. All I'm saying is to come back to the right path. Whether she does, is her choice =)
As for finding love in the arms of her clients, I honestly am of the opinion that is not love. It could be lust, it could be temporary sexual gratification, but no I don't think its love. I suppose it depends on what is one's definition of love.
My definition love is this:
"Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things; believes all things; hopes all things; endures all things."
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Nice, the long post kinda made me miss your main points somehow. Now that you re-phrase it: "made our stand but don't force on her", well it made sense :)
but the world is imperfect, some people in the world dun get any love at all, so her short 'stint' of "being treated like a princess" may be a better fate than many other poor souls...
Hey dude. I'm sorry for the late reply. Surprisingly, life's pretty monotonous over here. However, it is my Spring Break so I'm trying my best to get the most out of it; well, at least before my finals which is in roughly around three weeks time. What can I say? Gotta work hard and play hard!
to many of us we do think it is the ''wrong decision''. But in her mind, she thinks it is the ''right decision'' so who are we to tell her whats wrong and whats right?
Most governments around the world, give license to operate such business cater to VIPs especially men! If there's no demand, obviously there wont be supply. Sufiah is obviously enjoying every moment of it.
How many woman actually gets material things and being treated like queens? At the end of the day it all boils down to self respect and self dignity, right?
but how can we help those who dont have that or rather those who don't need help? It is like helping a cancer patient who is dying.
sufiah obviously dont need help. And mind you, most malaysians are very narrow minded, it is our culture, it is how we are being brought up. In overseas escorts are everywhere! even when u are walking down the streets. Even when I was young, walking down baverly hills, hooker centres are all over!
She's having a good time doing what she does. However most of us see it as abnormal or immoral, at least she is earning money with her ''skills'' and doing what she enjoys.Furthermore she is happy.
you think pamela anderson and those girls in playboy magazine are not escorts? They are! and they are selling their magazines/video tapes like hot cakes.
I would rather say good things about escorts than those who rob/steal/kill people for money. Or those who take drugs everyday.
MAYBE, MAYBE she will get out of it someday. but it is HER decision to make.
Love is very subjective. Different people view love differently. Maybe you are in a world of fairytales that love is SUPPOSE to be (like what you quote) but it is so much more than that.
and sex is basic human needs. Supposely one should only do it with the ''right person'' and with the only person he/she love. But what if their partners are not able to provide this basic needs? then what?
thats when they go hunting for brothels!
another thing, whether it is love or lust nobody knows. Like what they say whats love without lust? It comes in a package.
the more people are going to ''try'' to lead her and advice her to go on the right path, the more she's going to be resentful.
dont hope,don't advice, don't judge.
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